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Single in the City: How to Make Friends in a New Town


Moving to a new city can be both stressful and exciting, and if you’re doing it alone, you might even feel a little overwhelmed—but there’s no better time to make a big change. Since you’re single, you get to make all the decisions, which means you can do what’s right for you and only you.

With your new-found free time, use your nights and weekends to learn about your new home and meet new people. With so much to do, your social life might be the last thing on your mind, but remember the first few months in a new location are the “sweet spot” when it comes to establishing lasting relationships. Try these tips to get the ball rolling:

Be the New Kid

When you’re new, most people are happy to show you around and help you get acclimated. Make the most of their generosity by accepting any invitation, even if it doesn’t sound like something that would interest you. You never know when stepping out of your comfort zone might lead to new hobbies, or even new relationships.

Get Some Fresh Air

Even if you don’t have anything in particular to do, a change of scenery can make all the difference. Take your dog to the dog park or call the friend of a friend you’ve been meaning to get in touch with for coffee. Even just walking around local shops can help you clear your head, reduce stress, and, if you’re lucky, meet someone new.

When in Rome

Take advantage of everything your new town has to offer by asking your relocation coach to investigate popular area attractions. If you live in wine country, join a winetasting group. If you moved to a warmer climate, try watersports or hiking. If you find yourself near a big city, soak up some culture by going to a show or museum. The point is to get social by embracing change, and a new city can help you do that.

Be a Student

Since you’ll probably spend a lot of your free time alone at first, the relocation process might force you to get to know, and possibly reinvent, yourself. Take stock of your likes and dislikes. Do your old hobbies bring you as much joy as they used to? It might be time to learn something new. Your coach can provide a list of local colleges, community centers, etc., offering classes in various topics. And the best part is, you’ll meet other learners with similar interests.

Learning a new job is another way to discover what you don’t already know. Do you need a refresher course in a certain area? Or maybe you’d like to learn something entirely new so you can go in a different direction altogether. Investing in your professional development (or seeing what your company provides) is a good way to pass the time and meet new people while advancing your career.

Speaking of professional development, ask your coach for a list of professional associations that gather in your area. Networking can help you learn a lot about the local business climate and its key players. It’s also a great way to establish yourself in the business community, and since you’re new, you’ll have plenty to talk about.


Nothing passes the time while giving you a sense of personal fulfillment like volunteering for a worthy cause. Since you’ve spend a lot of time thinking about your own needs lately, take a much-needed break by helping someone else. Ask your coach to research local charities so you can marry your passions with local need…meeting like-minded people is just an added benefit!

Let’s face it – deciding to go solo in a new city is a gutsy move. You’ve already decided to take charge of your career, so don’t let your social life fall by the wayside. It might take time for things to fall into place, but with the right attitude and a little bit of resourcefulness, the possibilities are endless.

Discover more ways to make your new place feel like home! Explore our Relocation Resources articles for tips on all the stages of your move. 


Contribution by Karen Hoyt.

Karen is a Certified Professional Résumé Writer (CPRW) with a background in career consulting, business writing, and project management. She also serves as a member of IMPACT Group’s Communications Committee.


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